Robert Frost, once said, “A poem begins in delight but ends in wisdom.”
The poetry that Pastor Vermon shared from the Song of Solomon: A Love Story has been a review of love between married couples, revealing—among many things—how couples can continue “to miss each other” in life. However, Solomon calls his wife “my sister, my bride.” Here is where I see wisdom.
Be assured, we will struggle with life events, in and out of marriage. We don’t want to struggle long. We want immediate gratification. However, when the struggle is longer than we want, it can feel cold, dark, and lonely. That’s when we begin to wonder why we feel weak, with our faith waning, and we begin to question, “Does our spouse or God really love me?” We know are feet are “stuck in miry clay” with the convictions of sin. But just like the Shulamite, we can hear His voice, if we listen. She heard his voice and He reassures her of his affection, and here is where I see God’s ultimate purpose in marriage.
There is how Christ sees and loves the church, and a parallel reality: by God’s grace, a couple can make it through all the sanctifying moments and struggles of life. We can look back at those moments of pain and separation with joy. We can look back and praise God for His sanctifying and redemptive powers found in the blood of Jesus. If we just slow down and stay still long enough to listen! Forgive and ask forgiveness. Choose joy. Fight for yourself, for your spouse, for His Glory. For we know that “together, that through the perseverance of our faith, we will be made perfect and complete.” Our minds are renewed when we do not conform to the patterns of this world (divorce is one of those patterns). Rather, choose to let His desires become our desires. Choose to stand and fight. Choose not to grow weary. Choose to finish and run the race, totally dependent on God’s Grace.
Solomon goes on to say winter is past, the rain is over. He speaks about the fig tree, the fragrant grapes that grow on the vine. Stop focusing on the winter that is passed. If we waken each day, we will find that “His mercies are new every morning,” and we too will begin to see the fruits of the Spirit. smelling His sweet fragrance.
So, when marriage gets tough, as we know it does, for the sanctifying of our faith, STAND and don’t give up searching. Remember we don’t have to fight the spiritual battles alone. Don’t give up! Though this poetic view of marriage can shed light on how to have a happy marriage, it leads each of us to understand that our groom, our God, is LOVE. He is faithful. He is steadfast. And in the meantime, like the love of God, who will never let us go, we are comforted by communion with Christ. Though we are going to battle together, and we walk through trials together as husband and wife, as joint heirs, we are determined to battle for each other for the sake of the Kingdom—because I want to see my brother/sister feasting with the saints at the banqueting table.
I look forward to a life in eternity with Dennis, my husband, my brother. So, Solomon was not only a great poet, but also the wisest man who lived.
Song of Solomon 2:8-15.
Romans 12:12 We are are transformed by the renewing of our mind . . .
James 1:4 And let steadfastness have its full effect, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking in nothing.
Hebrews 12:1 Therefore, since we are surrounded by so great a cloud of witnesses, let us also lay aside every weight, and sin which clings so closely, and let us run with endurance the race that is set before us . . .
Psalms 40:2 He drew me up from the pit of destruction, out of the miry bog, and set my feet upon a rock, making my steps secure.
Lam 3:22-23 The Lord’s loving kindnesses indeed never cease . . .
Phil 3:13 . . . press on toward the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus.