This phrase that Pastor Vermon shared with us on the first part of this sermon series, Song of Solomon: A Love Story, has powerful implications for the unmarried woman. I’d like to unpack this a bit and shed some light on how this series, which is centered around marriage, has very meaningful takeaways for those of us who are not married.
Being musically inclined, I think the perfect theme song for how I’m feeling about this particular phrase is “Beautiful” by MercyMe. You have GOT to listen to it… like now. (I’ll wait…)
The world tells us women through all its different mediums with a very loud voice how to look, how to act, what to eat, what to wear, what our standard of beauty is, what our acceptable role is in politics, in corporate America, in our own homes… And it has, more often than not, had absolutely devastating effects on our women, our homes, our families, and our communities.
So I ask you, what voice takes precedence over your life? Are you listening to the voice of pop culture? Are you getting lost in the dominating winds of the latest trends? Or are you listening to the voice of a loving groom (Jesus) speaking to His bride? Do you know that voice is even there? Are you seeking to listen to the voice of Jesus Christ, who sees your whole heart, and loves you for exactly who you are in this very moment? Or are you seeking a man’s voice, to superficially fill a void in your heart that only God can fill?
Pastor V acknowledged those of us with broken childhoods, those of us who have suffered from verbal, physical and/or sexual abuse. I’m talking to the woman with a marred and imperfect story and a broken heart… I’m talking to the woman who feels shame for what she has done in her past. Take up hope and wear it boldly and know that God has a special and tender place in His heart for you.
I loved how this first sermon spoke on the power of God’s redeeming grace. We do not have to accept the negative things that have been spoken over us, Sister. That in this life, we can have redeeming relationships that affirm who we are (through God’s eyes). We don’t have to wait for the next life to be restored and healed and whole. We can experience God’s promises and the fullness of His love now. That no matter what we have done, what we have allowed to happen, what we have ignored, who we have hurt, who has hurt us… nothing, absolutely nothing and no one, can separate us from the love of God. The kind of love this God of ours has in store for us, is the kind of love that can restore and absolutely redeem decades of hurt.
Married, single, divorced, or otherwise (c’mon, my women at the well), we ALL desperately need Jesus. It’s one thing we all have in common. It’s the one thing that humbles us, keeps us grounded, and brings us to our knees. And guess what? My sister, you serve an infinitely powerful, all-knowing and all-seeing Savior who is madly in love with you. You are absolutely beautiful in His eyes, and you are highly regarded and cherished in His heart.
So I implore you… Let Him love you. Let His voice, His Loving words of affirmation, His redeeming grace, speak over you daily and reign in your heart.
Be open to Love.